To live in paradise, you must build it first. Kin domain settlement Lesnaya Polyana (Forest Glade), Mari El 18.04.2019 17:06:56
Two years ago, I with my husband moved to the settlement from the city. Of course, we prepared a lot for the move and studied the life in domain. We read forums, went to festivals, visited settlements, and of course, earned money. Everything revolved around the same questions: "How to make a living?", "How to build a house?", "Where to teach children?", "How to arrange life" ... Up to the question how to install a washing machine in a house without plumbing and how to make high-speed Internet access in our domain ... But no one talked about the importance of family relationships to create kin domain.
We clearly divided for ourselves the life HERE in the city, and the life THERE in the settlement, in our kin domain.
We thought that when we moved to the settlement, we would meet dawn every day, walk on the grass, listen to the birds singing ... We naively believed that having moved to the earth, we would go to heaven. It turned out that building of our own paradise was exactly what we have to do. And this is a serious work, and above all this is a work on yourself.
The first year of our life in settlement opened us that we were not a family before ... a family in the full sense of the word. Yes, we lived together, spent the weekend together and went to the dacha, sometimes had dinner together (if our work schedule allowed), had breakfast, watched movies together, but we didn’t really know each other.
To a large extent, we have not been together in the same space for a long time. After all, each of us went to his own work. Life in the city did not give us the opportunity to be ourselves, did not allow us to open up and, most importantly, did not tests us as the earth did it. Here a man has his own completely masculine affairs, and a woman has her own. A man can do his job with high quality and inspiration only when his beloved woman trusts him. And how difficult it was for me, since I was told from childhood: “You must be independent. You should not depend on the man ", etc. In modern society, women and men are brought up equally, and I see a big mistake in it.
Having moved to the settlement, we were left by ourselves for the first time. And we had to prove ourselves, because the life in settlement does not accept city masks, and I am immensely grateful for that.
There were certain difficulties associated with following: we changed the way of our life, place of residence, we left habitual job, and gave birth to our first child, and all this happened at the same time, literally within half a year. These difficulties made us to realize that we were not perfect and not holy, that we did not have mutual understanding on many basic issues in life. We immediately realized that the reason was the differences in upbringing, the reason in our families, where we grew up, the reason in our childhood. And most importantly, we realized that we need to learn to accept each other. And each of us decided to become better. So the path to an endless and interesting process was opened for us - the path to self-development and self-improvement. I am happy that I came to this now, when I am 25, and my child is only a year old.
We didn't have time to look inside ourselves, there was no time to dig deep into our past, to restore family traditions, to educate children consciously, when we were living in the city and working per 10-12 hours a day. Aren’t family and children the most important things in life?
Only now, when the issues of responsibility, trust, education, and therefore the basic issues of family relationships, were spoken and resolved in a long hours of conversations, I began to really enjoy the sun, water, spring ... I want to meet every day, I want to communicate, sing, invent, share, walk barefoot, dance, listen to the birds. I am full of vitality and strength! I realized my life purpose. I know what I want, and I have faith in a bright future. Now our life is similar to the one we dreamed about while living in the city. We deliberately came to such life after a year and a half, through serious work on ourselves. Now I can say that we have become a family. We passed this test, which life presented us. Thank you, Lesnaya Polyana (Forest Glade), we are happy that we live here.
And I am very pleased to know that this great path of self-development has just begun, and there are so many interesting things in the future! I hope to God our children be wiser and more conscious of us, and may those simple truths and components of happiness, to which we now come, will be embedded in them from childhood.
I wish to all of you happiness, more free time and opportunity to dream.
Kin Domain Settlement Lesnaya Polyana (Forest Glade), Mari El